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Memorial Day 2009

This is a day of remembrance specifically for those who have died in our nation’s service. In my family we extend this special day to remember close loved ones who have gone on before us. We celebrate the lives of those we have lost by visiting gravesides and re-telling our favorite memories. I hope this ritual will help the younger ones get a better sense of their history. This year we we visited sites very familiar to us. My father and my step-son. Every time we pass the cemeteries we wave and say hello from the car if we don’t have time to stop. It will often spark questions or stories that we can share throughout the year. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t miss them. There is also not a day that goes by that I don’t wish that they could have been a bigger part of my children’s lives.

memorial day weekend 002This is at the boys brothers graveside. He died in 2003 but still remains an integral part of every family picture drawn by the boys. They may not have their own memories but they have mine. They know that it was their big brother that drove me to all my prenatal appointments while I was carrying them. That he  me laugh so much I cried on millions of occasions. They know his favorite music and which books he read. He is as real a brother to them as each other.

memorial day weekend 005This is the boys with my mother at my fathers graveside. My father died while I was carring Hayden so he never met these last few babies. I regret that all the time. My father befriended and was loved by every person who ever met him. He let me tell him how badly I’d screwed something up and he would hug me and tell me that we would find a way to work it out, no matter what the problem was. ( I seemed to screw up a lot) I loved him with all my heart. There wasn’t a day that went by that I did not talk to him on the phone or see him. He was truly an amazing man just ask my kids, they would love to share their favorite grandpa stories with you.


May 25, 2009 Posted by | Holiday's | 4 Comments

Momma’s Day 2009

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I hope all the mother’s reading this are as blessed as I am this Mother’s Day. My boys came home Friday from school and laid out all of the projects they made so I could get them as soon as I came home from work. I’ve heard all week about secret surprises and overheard whispered plans. When asked what I want my response is always the same. I’ve asked for one day with no fighting…I know there is a  Slim Possibility, Fat Chance, absolutely NO HOPE for that but.. a wish is a wish. From Hayden I received a lovely ginormous (I am not kidding. It’s HUGE!) purple  silk flower and lace nosegay attached with floral tape to a Bic pen. It will look so lovely when I bring it to work with me, I’ll have to put it in my book bag because it won’t fit in my purse. He also wrote a paper entitled “I think my mom is the best mom in the world.” He wanted to say one of the reasons was I taught him to play Texas Hold ’em but he thought the teacher would be mad. Instead he decorated the card with spades, clubs, diamonds, and hearts. (priceless) Caleb made me a mondola in Art class along with hand drawn pictures of us together. Ian came home with the picture above and a planter with quite a few blooms in it. I haven’t heard from Gavin yet but it’s officially not Mother’s Day for 2 more hours…There is still hope.

P.S. I’m still holding out for the “no fighting” thing.

Happy Mothers Day to you all!

May 9, 2009 Posted by | Holiday's | 2 Comments