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My Greatest Birthday Present? Friends!

cupcakeMy family didn’t really do much for birthdays when I was growing up. They were acknowledged and all but it was very low key. A few gifts at the dinner table, people would sing, and my sister would usually bake a cake. (Except for Sweet 16! My parents and the parents of my best friend rented out the Tinley Park Roller Rink for a shared private party!) To this day I don’t really know how to respond properly when people wish me happy birthday. I generally just forget about the day altogether. I get a card in the mail from my mom and sister.  My brothers… ha! no way would they remember…but I know they love me! I tell the babies all I want is one day with no fighting… (yeah right) whatever…

Well, this year, my perfect friend Pam (OMG she REALLY IS perfect!) invited me and the boys over to her house to hang out and swim for a few hours before I went to work the later shift at the library. I came ready to hang out by the pool, hair in a pony, tee-shirt..you get the picture. We get there and she’s made a million cupcakes with sprinkles, has gifts on the table, (one from our friend Lori  too) tells me her daughter is babysitting (THANKS JACKIE!) and that she is taking me to lunch at TGI Fridays. OK….cool. We get there and are looking at the menu when another friend pops up! (eyebrow raised) Turns out, she called around and asked whoever was free to drop everything and come to lunch. WHO does that? This is only ONE of the reasons she’s perfect trust me. She asked when was the last time I went out for my birthday and guess what? It was when SHE took me to a Jimmy Buffet concert. This was not a big number birthday, it was just a regular old one.. But, it was amazing. I may not have much but I have wonderful friends! There were many wishes on FB and another friend took me to dinner that weekend while my son volunteered to babysit. I am truly blessed..and shamed. I feel good when I just remember to SAY Happy Birthday to someone. I have to do nice things for people on their birthdays now…It feels great! Who’s Birthday is next?

June 24, 2009 Posted by | Friends, Partys | 2 Comments

An “Out of Mommy” Experience/ Girls Night Out

girlfriendsI attended religious high school.  I was popular and was truly blessed to have  always had a close knit group of “true” friends. After school I got married, divorced, married, divorced….etc, etc.. started having more children and close friends (all friends) fell along the wayside. I didn’t really notice it until it had slipped completely away and I found myself alone and very busy raising 4 boys on my own.

Well, within the last 2 years I have reconnected with so many people from my past via face-book. (I know, I know) Some, were friends some were acquaintances, ages roughly spanning 10 years.  An old friend opened up her home to everyone that could make it for a mini reunion and it was amazing. It was like time had stopped and we were all 18 again. Since that night we’ve had several more get-togethers and have started a “Girls Night Out” once a month. We meet in a central location many traveling at least an hour to attend. Every month its like pot luck to see who can make it. The dynamics of the event always change with venue and attendees. One month it’s hot tub and hor’dourves at a friends, dinner and a movie, bar and karaoke or just dinner. The event is limited only by imagination of the online thread.

The thing is…We come from all different walks now. If we were to meet on the street you could never put us together. Those of us with kids see ages span from adult to babies. There are stay at home moms, career women, preacher’s wives, lesbians, multiple divorcees, princess, bartenders, Trekkies, vixens and the not so vixens. (just to name a few) Some who’s lives still revolve around the church and those who haven’t been inside one in decades. But, the thing is, The dynamic of the group works. We click, we blend, we KNOW who we are and the value that each of us bring to the table. We laugh, we share, we make our lives better by shared experiences.

I’m sure we make a spectacle of ourselves in restaurants with all of the laughing and multiple conversations going on at once but its amazing. I feel like I’m whole again when I have an “out of mommy experience”. If I had but one wish right now I’d wish that each of you had good friends to hang with. OH RIGHT, if I had one wish it would be for millions of tax free dollars, but after that…I’d wish you had great friends…well at least you know you have me! You are welcome to pull up a chair at my table anytime. XO

Women are in league with each other, a secret conspiracy of hearts and pheromones.  ~Camille Paglia

May 13, 2009 Posted by | Friends | 8 Comments